As I closed the pool gate behind me, I noticed a man and a little girl and …no one else!! The normally noisy pool area was very quiet this morning. Good thing, because last night’s fight with Don had left me hung over, tired, and still very mad. After 18 months together we still only had two speeds! We were either extreme “can’t get enough of you” or extreme “I hate your guts”. We brought out the worst in each other and the extremes were getting tiresome. I settled into the lounge chair in the corner of the pool deck, and pulled my cap down over my puffy eyes and pounding head. This was what I needed, a little peace and quiet, time to think, and for this damn headache to go away!
From the other side of the pool, 4 year old Sarah, came over with all the the ease of an adult striking up a conversation. She was so smart and had an impressive vocabulary for her age. She chattered away and then asked if she could have some suntan lotion. Not accustomed to taking care of 4 year olds, and still wallowing in my misery, I just handed her the bottle and closed my eyes again. A few seconds later a small voice said, “I think I got too much”. When I looked up, she had most of the bottle of suntan lotion running from her hands, down her arms. The man, who had been watching this from the other side of the pool, was walking towards us. He was smiling but I suspect that he was really laughing at us because in my efforts to help her, we were both covered in suntan lotion. He had such an easy smile and the same dancing brown eyes as Sarah. She introduced me to her Dad and as we exchanged hellos, I couldn’t help but notice…..there was just something about him. He exuded the confidence of a man…a grown up man, much different than the childish man I had spent my evening arguing with. I could tell he knew himself, was comfortable in his own skin and he was comfortable with me. I wanted to know him better and I could tell he wanted to know me. Oh yes, I could tell this was going to be the start of something good.